Payton just turned one month on August 11th, and honestly, I don’t know how we made it.
Both my husband and my mom have been such a big help, and I couldn’t have done it without them. Seriously.
I also couldn’t have done it without these 10 items. Let me tell you why.
1. Petit Bateau Unisex Newborn Baby Plain Bodysuit–I bought these for two reasons. First, because I love all things white and I think there’s nothing cuter than a baby in a white onesie. Second, because she can spit up/pee/poop as much as she wants on these and at the end of the day I can throw them all in the wash and not worry about color running from washing everything together because everything is white. I have these in a variety from tank top to long sleeve, and honestly go through about 3-4 every day. At night we keep her in the long sleeve ones and during the day she wears the short sleeve or tank top ones. So do yourself a favor and stock up on these. They’re incredibly soft and easy to wash. Also, get the kimono style for easy dressing. I was terrified to put anything over her head the first week or so and the kimono style allowed me to lay her on the clothes and then snap it around her.
2. Petit Bateau Anti-Scratch Baby Mittens– Another must have if your baby is anything like mine and claws at her face all day long. And I mean all day, even in her sleep! These mittens were not only really soft, but they actually stayed on her hands. At first they were tough to get on her hands because I was scared that she was such a fragile baby, but after a while you realize you’re not hurting them and just kind of stuff their little hands in there. They also second as a napkin because she was forever wiping spilled milk off her face with the mittens. So buy at least 4 pairs because you’ll want to change them out throughout the day when they get really wet.
3. Petit Bateau Baby’s Plain Terry Socks– Again, a must have. And again, these are really soft. These socks stayed on Payton’s feet the best out of all the socks we tried and kept her little feet warm in the first few weeks after birth. You only need about 2 pairs though if you’re like me and will be doing a load of laundry every night. (Just kidding, my mom did a load of laundry every night. But it helped that everything she was washing was white.)
4. Honest Company Shampoo + Body Wash- This stuff smells delicious and doesn’t bother baby. But that’s all baby stuff…the reason I’m sharing this is because of the bottle. The pump makes it easy to use which is essential when you have a slimy tiny fragile little baby in one hand and are trying to wash her with the other.
5. Baby’s Journey Whale Bath Tub Sponge– In case you didn’t know, your newborn is going to be too tiny to use that cute bath tub you probably already bought. So this sponge works wonderfully as a cushion in your sink for when you’re bathing baby those first few weeks. Since you’ll probably be holding your baby the entire bath time, this cushion allows you to rest her in the sink and cushion her when you’re flipping her from back to tummy. It also retains water (duh, it’s a sponge) so it stays as warm as the water so your baby isn’t touching something cold when you rest her against it.
6. UPPAbaby Bassinet– Honestly, I never thought I’d use this. It came with the Vista Stroller I bought and I thought it was cute but my baby was going to sleep in her crib starting night one, so I wasn’t going to need it. HA HA HA HA! Right. Payton has slept in her crib a handful of times this first month. Every other time, she slept in her bassinet next to our bed. And since I didn’t expect her to sleep in it we didn’t buy the bassinet stand so we used the actual stroller to hold the bassinet. Don’t worry, I locked all the wheels, but I highly suggest buying the stand. It probably would’ve been much easier. Payton still naps in her bassinet throughout the day as it sits on the coffee table and now sleeps in the bed with us. I know, I swore I would NEVER be one of those moms. But when your baby sleeps for a 5 hour stretch the first time she’s in bed with you, you’ll change your mind too. Sleep wins.
7. Pampers Swaddlers– This is another “duh” item but I’m sharing it because these have been the best diapers I’ve found so far. I wanted to love the Honest Company diapers because they’re cute and colorful, but they’re terrible. They gap in the front and the band is so wide, I just didn’t like them at all. These swaddles have passed every test though from A LOT of poop to an unimaginable amount of pee.
8. A&D Ointment– Before I gave birth, I went to Buy Buy Baby with my mom and was completely shocked by the number of options they had for ointments. I tried googling what was best but that didn’t really help. Then, this couple walks up with 2 carts full of baby supplies and I can tell they must have a number of kids. So I ask the husband if they have a specific ointment they recommend using. He tells us that they have 5 kids and for every kid they’ve used the A&D ointment and it has worked the best. Without question, I purchased it and I’m so glad I listened to him because my sweet girl has yet to have a diaper rash. Hallelujah!
9. Gerber Birdseye 10-Pack Flatfold Cotton Diapers– Obviously I’m not using these as diapers since I just told you which diapers I do recommend. But instead I use these as a bib and burp clothes. I love these for a number of reasons. 1. They’re white so I can use 4 a day and throw them in the wash at night with all the other white things Payton dirties. 2. They’re really soft. Just think, if they’re soft enough for babies bottom, they’re soft enough to be under baby’s chin catching all that spilled milk. 3. They absorb a lot of liquid. So when you’re baby spits up, 9 times out of 10 this cloth will absorb it all before it gets to your shirt. However, expect your baby to somehow miss that burp cloth and get it all over your clothes anyways. You’ll soon start wearing a cloth on each shoulder.
10. Aden + Anais Swaddles– These are another item I thought I wouldn’t use much, but boy was I wrong. Payton was continuously swaddled her first 2 weeks of life and it helped having a bunch of these on hand. I bought the plain white ones as well as some white ones with colored polka dots (I know, crazy) but was able to wash them with all the other white stuff at night. Do yourself a favor and buy 2 packs of 4. You’ll use them as blankets later.
I don’t know about y’all, but no one warned me about how hard the first month of motherhood was. Here are some things I wish someone had told me.
1. You’re going to cry, a lot. The first week we were home, I cried every day multiple times a day. You’re going to be very emotional and you’re going to cry about everything. Don’t worry, it gets better.
2. Breastfeeding is NOT for everyone. No one told me this before it got to the point where every time I fed Payton I was crying. In today’s day, everyone is very vocal about their opinions on breastfeeding. They’ll make you feel like you HAVE to do it and you’re a terrible mother if you don’t. Well they can all suck it because Payton was only breastfed for 8 days and she’s doing just fine. And so will your baby.
3. Ask for help. I already knew having my mom with us was going to be a huge help, but I didn’t realize how much I’d actually need her. So be vocal about what it is you need and want. I needed her to keep up with laundry and dishes, while I focused on feeding the baby and getting her to sleep. My mom also helps with that, but she really helps me with keeping up with the house.
4. You’re going to be in pain. Yes, this should’ve been a given because hello, you just birthed a child. But for some reason I didn’t expect to be in that much pain. Take home the numbing spray from the hospital, take your pain medicine, and take stool softeners. That’s about it.
5. Engorgement. If you know what this is, you’re good. If you don’t or have never heard about it like I hadn’t, look it up NOW. It is real, and it hurts A LOT. As soon as the pain stopped down there, this happened. And it was worse than the pain down there. Also, I’m not sure if cabbage leaves actually helped, but they were cold and they felt good, so try it.
I hope these tips along with my 10 essential items can help a new mom or a new mom-to-be out there. Every baby is different and every pregnancy will be different, so what worked for me might not work for everyone. You will know what is best for you and baby and try not to google every single thing, you’ll drive yourself crazy. TRUST ME!